What is the role of parents in the college acceptance process?

By April 2, 2019College

We recently had the chance to reflect on a posting on “Grown & Flown.” https://grownandflown.com/helped-teens-college-admissions-cross-line/?utm_source=Grown+%26+Flown+Email+Subscription&utm_campaign=d7cb6a5355-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2019_03_27_11_47&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_fc15798a65-d7cb6a5355-246358741 The author asks, “I Helped My Teens with College Admissions, Did I Cross the Line?” Perhaps this is a question that many parents are now asking themselves since the revelations of the recent college admissions scandal.  The question certainly has been raised by parents of several of our clients. Getting accepted to college today is extremely competitive.  It is definitely appropriate and even necessary in many cases, for a student to take SAT or ACT test prep tutoring. It would not be self-serving of us to suggest that every student get guidance in college essay writing, managing through the application process, and making an appropriate college selection.  But, helping your young adult with these difficult responsibilities is very appropriate. Providing advice can be supportive as well. The author asks a very important question: “As parents …. are we spending time and money paving the path for our child or supporting our child along the path that they are paving for themselves?”  We urge parents to “be there” for their kids but to refrain from doing the work; to provide support and ask questions but to stop short of telling your child what it is that you think they should do. Now is the time to allow them the chance to own the process and make their own decision. It is the parent’s time to love them, support them and encourage them.